There has been a lot of hype lately at the MYS board, and some members are starting to shy away from posting messages at the board, afraid that they might say the wrong thing and get 'apprehended'. *sigh* I believe critism and comments are good, but it is the way the messages are worded that sometimes it hurts the person being critisized/commented.
The members at the MYS board joined the group for the passion that we share, at the same time, to be able to make new friends and learn new things along the way. In order to learn, we ask questions, and opinions and ideas are put forward, to be shared together. Not everyone think alike. We come from different backgrounds and we think differently for our mentalities are different. We are, after all, unique human beings, an individual with a mind of our own.
We cannot expect everyone to think in one straight line for it will only make the world a boring place to be. Our thoughts are like branches of a tree. Complicated, but not necessarily difficult to climb onto. We just need to know how to tackle the branches in order not to break it. We thread carefully and with caution.
Same goes with the way you want to make comments to opinions and thoughts or ideas of others. Thread gently, or someone might get hurt, even if it was well intended. Yeah, some might say that why beat around the bush when you can just get straight to the point? Tak payah la bahasa bunga bunga. Sheer waste of time. Afterall, the message is the same, might as well say it directly. So some people say. Yes, like it or not, it does make a differnce to how the person being critisized or others too, might take affect to what you just said.
There is nothing wrong in putting words nicely so as not to offend anybody, even if the end purpose is to just explain or clarify. The person is not hurt, the relationship is preserved. Everyone is happy, a win win situation, right? *smile*
Kita orang yang beradap. Kita harus pandai cakap berlapik. It is not always what you think is right for you will be right to others. One man's meat is another man's poison. So, never assume tht when U make a comment or critisize, that the other person will not get hurt by what U say, for U think that they will know tht you are just being an open and direct person. No matter how happy-go-lucky a person you are, there is still a part of you that is sensitive and can be easily hurt by the smallest action of others.
I always believe that never do onto others what you do not want others to do onto you. Meaning, if you do not want to get hurt, don't do things tht will hurt others first. Thread carefully, for you will never know when the branch will break. The wheel is always turning. Today you might be at the top, one day, the wheel will turn and you will be at the bottom. Think b4 you utter a word, for words cannot be taken back once said. Terlajak perahu boleh ditarik, terlajak kata, buruk padahnya......